Bottom Line

Value what God values.


You must love your neighbor as yourself.

—Mark 12:31 (NLV)

Goal of Small Group

To help students recognize the value in both themselves and others and to encourage them to treat everyone (including themselves) with the value and respect they deserve.

Think about This

As you’re leading your students through a discussion about value and respect, keep in mind that it’s easy for middle schoolers to get wrapped up in what everyone else is doing: They can be easily influenced by their peers to act and think in certain ways. So if students’ friends or families don’t value themselves or others, they might think it’s normal and do the same. Remember that middle schoolers are keen observers; they notice and remember what you say and do. So try to model the type of behavior that Jesus demonstrated by treating yourself and others with respect and honor.

Discussion Questions

  • What’s one thing most middle schoolers value?

  • How do you determine if something is valuable or not?

  • What does it mean to value yourself?

  • Why is it sometimes easy for us to let other people determine our value based on the labels that they place on us? (get them taking about what other people call them [nerd, quiet kid, etc] and why we sometimes end up being what the world calls us)

  • What’s are some things that we do that don’t show value to ourselves or others?

  • Based on Jesus’ teaching, who is our neighbor? What our some ways we can show our “neighbors” they have value?

  • This week, what’s one thing you need to change about the way you talk about or treat others?

Try This

We can’t value others until we first find value in ourselves. What better way to discover what value, respect, and honor look like than by looking at the way Jesus treated people! For this XP, give your students paper and pens and read aloud two stories from the Bible. As you read the stories, ask your few to write down or draw everything that comes to mind about the way Jesus treated people. After reading the stories, discuss as a group what they noted and then talk about how they can apply Jesus’ actions to their own lives.

We recommend reading the following stories to your students:

  • The Good Samaritan: Luke 10:25-37

  • Jesus and Zacchaeus: Luke 19:1-10